Wednesday, August 20, 2008

Marriage?Me?Now?.....Really??



There comes a time in life when thoughts of marriage,a husband,kids,settling down..looking after a family.. is supposed to sort of enter your mind..float about a bit n then finally rest firmly making u want all those things.Now when exactly do u know if its the right time for the floating to stop and the resting to start?
I personally have got nothing against marriage..My friends freak out at the mere mention of it.Somehow i think of it as yet another new thing that i get into without thinking twice bout it and probably end up regretting it.But then thats how pretty much everything else have been so far.So how can this be different?
What i've seen of married people's lives..well its not alwayz rosy i know.And i probably would'nt be able to handle it..but still..i think i wana get married more outta mere curiousity than anythin else.its like..have u ever like really badly wanted a dog..even though u know how difficult it is to take care of it n feed it n stuff?And then when u finally get your dog..the chances r a)it bites u..and u hate it.. and u realised how u shud've listened to everyone or b)it pisses on u and gets on ur nerves and u realise how u shud've listened to everyone ,but u still learn to love it...or whateva(except wen it pees on u)
i mean absolutely no offence to husbands around the world..just this is how i have it worked out in my head...
Apparently,half my classmates from school are already married, half married(engaged) or have kids (dunt even go there!).I don't have a problem with this.I'm actually even a lil proud that I'm still the single chick seeking higher worldy wisdom..(uh yeah rite) But seriously, there is this thing bout being the one of the few unmarried ones.There are so many things i wanna do before i get married.I was checking out this friend's album on facebook.I hardly talk to her but i luv snooping bout her albums checking out what she's up to now... no i'm not a web stalker...though it seems like i am.though i've alwayz thought the idea of having a stalker would b kinda cool.I mean imagine..someone thaaat obsessed wit lil ol' me...*sigh* i dunt even have a stalker...um anywayz..bout that girl..
She's got this fast wild crazy lifestyle...Part of me badly wants that kinda life.to have fun.the CRAAAAAAZZZYY way..part of me knows i probably would'nt be able to handle that sorta life is happy with the tame life that i lead now.I forgot why i mentioned this now.maybe to make the point that..although i'm not one of those "cool" single people livin' d big life...i'm still single n thats good enuff.n mayb cool in a mediocre sense. ;-)
So everyone is kinda goin crazy tryin to get me all married..and i'm not too worried bout it cos i know its gona take me a loooong looong time to find the rite guy..probably rite up to the point where people just stop expecting me to marry.
And the deal with arranged marriages is crazy.I'm through lookin for love...not sayin i dunt believe in true love and destiny n all.Sure,i'm sure the ONE for me is out there.Probably won't find him this time.Cos I've looked this long.N if he doesnt wanna show up now also then its his problem.He's the one whose missing out.you here that??You can just keep hiding out there whereva..cos i dunt give a damn.I'VE STOP LOOKING!!LOSER!ok so maybe its just me whose the sore loser.
I can settle for the not-really-d-one-but-not-too-bad-looking ONE too.
Apart from goodlooking, I 'd really like the dude to be one hell of a responsible guy.do boring stuff like..go to the bank,do paperwork,get my visa renewed n stuff that are really important but really boring and i really would'nt wana be bothered with.I can do stuff like take the dog for a walk, get the grocery (just go by mum's list), water the garden..no cancel that..too boring..cant handle a garden n worms n stuff.blah.Not saying I can't do the important stuff.I can.I have been doin it.My dad has tried to make me as independant as possible.i have gone to the bank and done paperwork and got bored outa my brains.Just don't like it.I should find a guy who actually likes doing all dat.if thats even possible.
Its crazy how normal traditional Indian parents won't let their girls date..because..well 'u can't go out with someone u hardly know"..or rather.."i know that boy..he's up to no good..trust me..i m ur parent.i know best."..but then years later..when they're gettin ready to get their daughter hitched..its the same scenario..they hardly know the guy..literally a stranger.and they want u to spend your whole life with him.he could chop u up with an axe on the very first nite..how wud they know???how is this rite and that wrong?its all the same!!noone really knows anyone either wayz.people change every second.who knowz what cud happen the next second..its like this deep dark hole...u just gota jump into it.u got nooo idea wat cud be in there.u think u've got a grip on somethin so u won't hurt urself..but u never know when its gona give away and come down with u.i know i m bein all super negative.but thats all that goes on in my head...i'm like Eeyore...can't help it..
ok my feet are being literally eaten into by giant mosqitos..so I'm gona go.Wish me luck on the guy hunt..or rather..wish all the guyz out there luck...they're the ones gone b stuck with Depression Hotline 24/7.Oh well! datz life,ain't it!

21 comments:

Samiha said...

your blog looks cool..! how did u do dat?? i think m getting techno-challenged in my old age..Well, for starters, ny guy u ultimately end up with, whether love or arranged marriage, cannot help but fall in love with u since u r the most coolest fun ppl to b arnd with.i d definitely ve wanted to date u if i wr a guy or a lesbian. It is scary. I had always thot that I d ve an arranged marriage cos i dint believe in love n rmance. I figured that when u r cooped with a person 24 x 7, u ve no choice but to fall for the guy.n one advantage f an arranged marriage is the romance part..u get to know each other..the whole works..takes a longer time to get bored. I jus received a shocker today.S's folks spoke with him n they want to gt him married soon. do u noe what that means??!!! it means CRISIS!!! i m fat n wear braces..!! i want to go on a world trip. I ve an unmarried elder sis.(convenient excuse)!I dont want to be a 'family' with strangers. but then I love the guy and some things you just hafta compromise on. Maybe they ll b worth it. If not, like Nutty dea suggests, jus fake it along. Either ways, it ll b an adventure. We can call each othr up n bitch.! ll b fun! worst case scenario- get a divorce n take the guy for what hes worth..alimony for the next 50 years..bring it on!!
P.S: I think u ll b a caring-cum-fun wife,mother,daughter-in-law.

Femme de gourmande said...

u sound like me... on steroids !

well if its any consolation I am a year older than you, single, very soon going to be unemployed and balding.

Welcome to the Good life :D

shahani said...

hey..so can I expect a sadhya?? it s so cool..esp the dog n husband comparison....!!!1

~Ms. A~ said...

ok..firstly..sam..wen they say comment..they mean like a statement..a quote....where u say ooh wat a fine writer u r n nice stuff ladat..but then ya..wat u ve said is like rite on too..but do we get alimony in india?n oooh remind me to tell u bout the weird proposals dats been coming up lately..funny as hell..n we ll talk bout S too k..i wanna know EVERYTHIN!!

~Ms. A~ said...

anju..steroids??really?naah..
n umm i dunno if u remember this..n i dunno y im actually reminding u..but ur really not a year older than me..i am..i mean a year older than u..remember?dat convo we had on d bus aaaages ago..n i was embarrassed as hell..yeah well..but thanx 4 dat anyway..d unemployed n balding part was helpful..im greying like crazy too..so none of us gettin any ynger anyway..

~Ms. A~ said...

shahani..
sadhya?hmmm..i wana do a thandoori sadhya 4 change..arabic style..but d payasam stays..no changes there!!
n the dog n d husb comp was done absolutely unconsiously...honest!!

Femme de gourmande said...

ohh la i forgot...lol either ways ..we're in one n the same place :D

VikramAdith said...

So, you want to know what it's like to have a stalker? After my *ahem* recent experiences, I guess I could give you some detailed information on that.

Mohammed Musthafa said...

hey....firstly....excellent post...havent read the whole blog ( i will!)...but i'm already happy with this one....

i'll tell u wht i liked (so tht i get to read those kinda stuff even more...) and the things i didnt ( so tht....u get wht i mean...)

ur style of writing is awesome...its as though ur sitting across the table and rambling...its really nice...especially wen u deviate and come bak and poke humour in between....besides, the *sighs* and really-big-and-hyphenated-words are all nice...

but one thing tht bugged me was the paragraphing...is it like a fad to not write in spaced out paragraphs? cuz i kinda find it hard to keep reading....

but all in all...nice blog...btw...u dont knw hw happy u made me wen i saw tht u had added Faisal Abbas - The Kidnappers Private Limited to ur bloglist...its the first time anyone's added my blog to their list (hw wud u knw....thts the prob right?). Anyways...i'm sure to add this blog to my list...and i'll comment on all ur posts (provided their as gud or better thn this one!).

P.S.: cud u give me ur email id cuz i wanna discuss abt tht film project of urs....jus a bit curious thts all....and if u still dont mind reading blogs....do check out my new one...
http://laptopdiary.blogspot.com
and maybe add tht to the blogroll as well? (yaah! christmas has come early!)

take care...keep blogging!

~Ms. A~ said...

vikram..
y dyu have a profile n no blog???

faisal..but then apparently mohammed now..wat is ur name actually?faisal or mohammad or abbas or i think i even saw an aziz sumwhere!!y dya have so many names?
and ok all d stuff i said on ur blog aand..the reason i dunt do the para thing is cos..it never occured to me..like u said its like i just keep rambling on like i m havin an actual convo.u dunt pause in between convos when wat u wanna say is coming outta ur mouth as fast as that!but yes ok i will b workin on ur suggestion n go fully para now.all 4 ur reading pleasures.
p.s- ur oder blog is now officially on my blog list.YAY you!

Mohammed Musthafa said...
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The Seeker said...

well, So anju has given a thought about marriage, Depression Hotline 24*7, but whatever you call, I really need to meet that guy before your marriage to brief him on certain things, In a way you've given a true account here. but I shud mention how freaky girls can get and have fun out of simple things in life,, also if posible the deal which we had with madri,, remember Valentines day...

Good one da!!!

~Ms. A~ said...

oh crap...the valentines day..THE VALENTINES DAY...was d best!!did i ever thank u 4 dat?

Mads said...

i like it..nice style of writing..but very bugging coz of the long paragraphs man...just keep spaces in between coz i found it hard to pay attention and missed some lines....keep up d great work

~Ms. A~ said...

yeah...sorry bout the para thing..will try to keep that in mind next time...really like ur blog too!!esp d post bout y gurls r soo annoying.. :-)
thankz 4 reading!!

The Seeker said...

No u didnt sweetheart! need not worry! there's a Valentine's day on the way ;)

roopashree said...

my eeyore rocks as usual!!! cool one yaar;) lov u. so proud of u:)

sweeti - youngistani"IMPOSSIBLE IS NOTHIN" said...

U got very nice vocabulary infact iam learning from you in this way... keep writing!.

~Ms. A~ said...

thankz roo.luv ya too!

n sweeti - learning frm me???wow i m honoured!!I am actually imarting knowledge???my exsistance is now worthwhile!!ty!

Lydia said...

Loved this one.. I agree with you about arranged marriages.. what Sam said is also right, when you live with someone for so long.. you're bound to fall for them.. or not.. I'm confused now.. I think it's pretty much what you meant about the pet dog =P Write more. Love, Lydia.

~Ms. A~ said...

im so confused that i ve stopped thinkin bout it...just blindfold urself n step into d rollercoaster ride..mite throw up by d end or mite wanna go again...ya never know...thankz 4 reading.. :-)